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In Communication, networking, relationships on October 23, 2018 at 11:19 pm

“The only weird thing about eating there is you share a table with total strangers.” This is the advice I received regarding eating at a little family style fried chicken joint in Sweetwater, TX. I travel a great deal for work. One of the highlights of my travel schedule is the great locally owned small restaurants. Especially in small towns. Sweetwater doesn’t have many locally owned restaurants to choose from. It’s located on the busy I-20 corridor between Midland and Abilene. The usual suspects are present: Whataburger, Popeyes, etc.

I’ll be honest with you, I’m not a huge fan of fried chicken at restaurants. With this in mind, I wasn’t sure what to think about the prospect of trying this out. I was pleasantly surprised. Not only was the chicken some of the best fried chicken I’ve ever put in my mouth, they serve nine to ten sides that you pass around the table and spoon onto your plate.

To me though, the highlight was eating at a table full of strangers. My co-worker and I sat next to two salesmen from Abilene. One had eaten there many times before and the other it was his first time too. We conversed for the majority of the meal. Once they finished eating, they hurried off to meet with more prospects. We then struck up a conversation with an older couple at the end of our table. The man had been coming to eat at The restaurant since 1959. The crazy thing, they don’t even live close to Sweetwater. They are from east Texas. They were driving home from Midland and made sure they left in time to make it to Sweetwater before the lunch rush just to eat the chicken.

I love chance meetings with total strangers. Just a brief moment to get a glimpse into the life of another person that you will never meet again.

If you ever get the chance, be sure to stop and eat at Allen’s if you are passing through Sweetwater, TX. Take your time. Talk with those around you.

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On Self Doubt

In Personal Development on October 23, 2018 at 1:24 am

So the last few days, I have written a great deal in my book. I am nine chapters in and that self doubt is creeping it’s ugly head around. I hate when this happens. There is so much I want to say in each topic and when self doubt comes around, I lock up. The fingers quit working and inevitably, I shut down the old laptop and call it a day. It may take me a few more days to get back into it. I hope not. Hopefully getting this all off of my chest will help. I’ve said it before ) not actually my words though), “if you want to be a writer, write.” I will continue to write until hopefully the self doubt goes away and the book starts writing itself again.

I Push Forward

In Personal Development on October 19, 2018 at 12:19 am

I have known that I want to write a book for many years now. For years, I thought, “who would want to hear from me.” I finally got over that for the most part and started writing earlier this year. It has not been easy. The first book I scrapped after writing the intro. The current book has gone through several iterations to get to the point I’m at now. Looking at my progress I know that this might not work. I can tell you the process has changed me immensely. I have had to to be very introspective. I am really going out on a limb and putting myself out there. It is somewhat of a scary feeling. Alas, I push forward. There are days when I can write for hours and it feels as if the book is writing itself. Them there are days when I feel like “this can’t possibly work,” and consider pulling the plug. Yet, I push forward. I have had this blog for quite some time. If you look back, you will see the randomness it seems to take. All a part of self discovery. There are long periods of time when it has just been neglected as you can see. That is nothing more than self doubt. Over the next several months, my hope is to use this platform to document my progress. Feel free to follow along. I hope you can learn something though my mistakes. Most of all, I hope that you learn that you can do the thing you want to do as well. Keep me honest. Don’t let me go several months without posting here.

Want to be a Writer…

In Personal Development on July 2, 2018 at 1:31 am

…then write. Advice I received during a podcast or a blog from Seth Godin. Really, it’s true for anything we do, or want to do. Now, that does not necessarily mean you will be a Pulitzer Prize writer, or even a best seller. But how are you going to be a writer if you don’t ever write?

Get started today.

Time to Bond

In Personal Development, relationships on April 22, 2018 at 9:53 pm

I love spending time with my kids. Today, my son and I played catch. There is something about playing catch with your son. An experience unlike any other. Teaching something so fundamental to the game of baseball. I find it to be a fascinating exercise in observing confidence in action.

Whether it is playing catch with a baseball with your son, kicking a soccer ball with your daughter, or shooting baskets with either; I will always cherish the memories created. Personally and scientifically.

Get out and get active with someone, especially your kids. You will grow from it just as much as they will.

Getting to Know You

In Personal Development on April 7, 2017 at 4:24 pm

Self-awareness seems to be somewhat of a hot topic these days. Whether or not someone directly comes out and calls it self-awareness, I have heard it no less than a dozen times in the last two weeks.

To be honest, I never really thought much about it until recently. I know there are certain things that I am good at, people who I gravitate towards, and tasks that I enjoy more so than others. When you look at the big picture, identifying why I am good at these certain skills, or why I hang with the people who I do, and why I enjoy certain tasks really does come down to my personality type.

How does one become self-aware? The simple answer: pay attention to yourself. The difficult answer (which really isn’t that difficult) survey yourself. Make notes. Understand the “why.”

Years ago I worked for the drug manufacturer Pfizer. We participated in the DISCovering Yourself and Others personality inventory. I’m sure it is called something different, but you can Google DISC personality and find a number of resources. In fact, you can even take a free survey online that will give you a brief synopsis of your personality tendencies. The synopsis is shockingly identical to the results that I saw during my Pfizer days. I encourage you to do the same, but don’t focus on your perceived weaknesses revealed in the survey. Instead, focus on the positive and improve on that. Go with your instinct.

As for me and my self-awareness, I have and I guess will always be the type of person that likes to get things done and will typically do them myself. I like fast paced activities and high energy, positive people. It is no wonder then that my DISC profile is “DI,” and specifically I identify as a “persuader” and an “implementer.” Makes sense if you know anything about my personal and professional background.

Let me know what you DISCover about yourself.

Full Disclosure–There are many other personality inventories and they all say pretty much the same thing about you. I am in no way affiliated with DISC or any of its entities, and I’m sure that the others are great. I just happen to have experience with DISC.

Life Happens

In Personal Development on July 30, 2016 at 11:44 pm

There is a saying that “the road to Hell is paved with good intentions.” I intended on adding a new blog post every day this month. I intended to go to the gym at least 4 times per week this year. I intended…(fill in the blank).

Then life happens. You go out of town. The kids have projects due or practice. Your significant other needs your help with something.

The trick is to not let this get down. I think the opening statement is a bit over the top and I rarely use it. You see, I understand life happening. And often times, I prefer when life happens. I wouldn’t miss those moments spent with the ones that I love.

Maybe you have intentions too. Write them down. Start attempting them. Just because life happened should be an excuse to just forget about them al together.

Content Experts

In Marketing on July 29, 2016 at 5:09 pm

Experts in content creation, social media, and SEO seem to be a dime a dozen these days. Here’s a few quick tests for you:

If you’re looking for a content manager, are they creating content for themselves or just pushing other people content through sharing?

If you’re looking for a social media person, are they using social media regularly across all platforms?

If you’re looking for an SEO firm, can you find them by googling “SEO?”

Find yourself a practitioner, not a dabbler.

Conversation Evolution

In Communication on July 13, 2016 at 12:21 pm

The airport is a fantastic place to observe how our society has evolved over the years, specifically the way we communicate and who we communicate with. Walking through Washington Reagan airport in DC (DCA) today I passed by the shoe shine stand. Two gentlemen were getting their shoes shined, and you guessed it: looking at their smartphone. I’m not judging at all. Look what I’m doing at this very moment; posting a blog from my smartphone.

I’m as guilty as the next of doing this. Cab rides, waiting rooms, restaurant tables. I don’t see the use of technology in the settings as positive or negative, just evolved. Before smartphones, you could connect with total strangers seated next to you at the airport gate. Now you can connect with whomever you please. Strangers on social media. Family via phone conversation. Friends via Skype. Or even…the stranger next to you. 

Who do you connect with in a room full of strangers?

Clearing the Dust

In News on June 17, 2016 at 5:30 pm

It has been a very long time since I have posted here. I am clearing off the dust and will be posting here once again. Thank you for your patience. I will likely redesign the site and the feel as well, and the content may be slightly different than what I’ve posted here in the past, but should be more frequent for sure.