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Getting to Know You

In Personal Development on April 7, 2017 at 4:24 pm

Self-awareness seems to be somewhat of a hot topic these days. Whether or not someone directly comes out and calls it self-awareness, I have heard it no less than a dozen times in the last two weeks.

To be honest, I never really thought much about it until recently. I know there are certain things that I am good at, people who I gravitate towards, and tasks that I enjoy more so than others. When you look at the big picture, identifying why I am good at these certain skills, or why I hang with the people who I do, and why I enjoy certain tasks really does come down to my personality type.

How does one become self-aware? The simple answer: pay attention to yourself. The difficult answer (which really isn’t that difficult) survey yourself. Make notes. Understand the “why.”

Years ago I worked for the drug manufacturer Pfizer. We participated in the DISCovering Yourself and Others personality inventory. I’m sure it is called something different, but you can Google DISC personality and find a number of resources. In fact, you can even take a free survey online that will give you a brief synopsis of your personality tendencies. The synopsis is shockingly identical to the results that I saw during my Pfizer days. I encourage you to do the same, but don’t focus on your perceived weaknesses revealed in the survey. Instead, focus on the positive and improve on that. Go with your instinct.

As for me and my self-awareness, I have and I guess will always be the type of person that likes to get things done and will typically do them myself. I like fast paced activities and high energy, positive people. It is no wonder then that my DISC profile is “DI,” and specifically I identify as a “persuader” and an “implementer.” Makes sense if you know anything about my personal and professional background.

Let me know what you DISCover about yourself.

Full Disclosure–There are many other personality inventories and they all say pretty much the same thing about you. I am in no way affiliated with DISC or any of its entities, and I’m sure that the others are great. I just happen to have experience with DISC.

You Gotta Have Faith

In Personal Development, relationships on August 4, 2016 at 5:10 pm

Faith is one of the more difficult concepts for me to deal with. I think it probably has to do with my controlling nature. In a few days, my daughter will move half way across the world to study abroad. The closer we get to her departure date, the more “real” it becomes to me.

Faith is really the only thing that I can have with regards to this situation. Faith that she will make it to her destination. Faith that she will enjoy her time abroad. Faith that she will pick up the language. Faith that her host family will live her as much as we do. Faith that God will provide for her. Faith….

Control really is like holding sand in your hands with your palms open and your fingers spread apart. Sure you can hold a certain amount, but most of it goes where it pleases. You just have to have faith that the sand will make it to a great destination.

I am faithful, but anxious at the same time. I know that she will live her home away from home. I know that her host family will take great care of her. But as a father, my stomach does still knot up a bit thinking about it. Faith….

Faith takes discipline. Faith in anything you do. As humans, we cannot control everything. We’ve gotta have faith. Faith in life. Faith in business. Faith in relationships. Faith in God. Faith…

Faith….

I Did It

In Personal Development on July 31, 2016 at 9:35 pm

31 blog posts in 31 days. I honestly did not know if I had it in me. And some days I struggled for content, but I did it. In fact, one day I forgot so I doubled up the next day.

So why do this? Why pay daily? For me the reasons are two fold. 

1) to force the habit. My goal is to write a book before this year is over. I only have a few months left. I needed to know that I could commit to writing daily.

2) I feel like I owe it to the general all of you. I’ve experienced so much over my sales career and I have recently made changes in my life to see things in a more positive light. If I can help just one person make the world a better place, then I can sleep at night.

Thank you to everyone that has taken time to read, like, and follow. It means the world to me. Don’t keep me a secret. If you like what you read, please share with others as you see fit.

I look forward to seeing you all in the future. Thank you for the support.

Life Happens

In Personal Development on July 30, 2016 at 11:44 pm

There is a saying that “the road to Hell is paved with good intentions.” I intended on adding a new blog post every day this month. I intended to go to the gym at least 4 times per week this year. I intended…(fill in the blank).

Then life happens. You go out of town. The kids have projects due or practice. Your significant other needs your help with something.

The trick is to not let this get down. I think the opening statement is a bit over the top and I rarely use it. You see, I understand life happening. And often times, I prefer when life happens. I wouldn’t miss those moments spent with the ones that I love.

Maybe you have intentions too. Write them down. Start attempting them. Just because life happened should be an excuse to just forget about them al together.

Go! See! Do! Be!

In Personal Development on July 22, 2016 at 5:02 pm

For years, I have told my children that you have one chance in life to go, see, do, and be. One chance without a load of responsibilities to hold you back. Before you know it, that chance is gone and in comes a job, a mortgage, loans repayment, marriage, and kids. Once those things take hold, it becomes harder to live your dreams.

Notice I said, “hard” to live your dreams. You still can, you just have to go about it more strategically. You can still chase your dreams, travel the world, start a business, etc as long as you are taking care of your responsibilities.

You see, the reason I tell my children this is to get them to go after their dreams now without procrastinating. When I was growing up, our dreams were always “some day” dreams. Some day I’ll have enough money. Some day I’ll have the right person to enjoy it with. The problem with “some day” is that some day turns into another, and another, and another until your some days eventually run out.

In a couple of weeks, my 16 year old daughter will leave to study abroad in Europe. I cannot express to you how proud of her I am that she is turning her some day into today. She has had this dream for quite some time, and now she gets to go live her dream. As terrified as this makes me as a parent, I know that she is ready, and that the experience is a once in a lifetime opportunity for her to truly live. She is going to go, see, do, and be; just as I have always told her.

Stop waiting for your some days. GO! SEE! DO! BE!