I have heard my wife tell me this time and time again, and I have also been on the delivery end of this statement. Our tone of voice changes everything that we say. To truly be intent on our actions, we need to start taking notice of not just what we say, but the tone of voice we use when we say it. It is OK to say something, hear the tone of your voice and say, “I’m sorry, my tone was all wrong, I meant to say it like…” It may seem awkward, but trust me, it is a great deal less awkward than being in an argument the rest of the evening for saying something the wrong way.
If you want to develop kindness, listen to the tone of voice you use and make corrections if needed.
Cale D. Hawley 